30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself

As Maria Robinson once said, “Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.” Nothing could be closer to the truth. But before you can begin this process of transformation you have to stop doing the things that have been holding you back.

Here are some ideas to get you started:

1. Stop spending time with the wrong people. – Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you. If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you. You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot. Never, ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth. And remember, it’s not the people that stand by your side when you’re at your best, but the ones who stand beside you when you’re at your worst that are your true friends.
2. Stop running from your problems. – Face them head on. No, it won’t be easy. There is no person in the world capable of flawlessly handling every punch thrown at them. We aren’t supposed to be able to instantly solve problems. That’s not how we’re made. In fact, we’re made to get upset, sad, hurt, stumble and fall. Because that’s the whole purpose of living – to face problems, learn, adapt, and solve them over the course of time. This is what ultimately molds us into the person we become.
3. Stop lying to yourself. – You can lie to anyone else in the world, but you can’t lie to yourself. Our lives improve only when we take chances, and the first and most difficult chance we can take is to be honest with ourselves.
4. Stop putting your own needs on the back burner. – The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too. Yes, help others; but help yourself too. If there was ever a moment to follow your passion and do something that matters to you, that moment is now.
5. Stop trying to be someone you’re not. – One of the greatest challenges in life is being yourself in a world that’s trying to make you like everyone else. Someone will always be prettier, someone will always be smarter, someone will always be younger, but they will never be you. Don’t change so people will like you. Be yourself and the right people will love the real you.
6. Stop trying to hold onto the past. – You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading your last one.
7. Stop being scared to make a mistake. – Doing something and getting it wrong is at least ten times more productive than doing nothing. Every success has a trail of failures behind it, and every failure is leading towards success. You end up regretting the things you did NOT do far more than the things you did.
8. Stop berating yourself for old mistakes. – We may love the wrong person and cry about the wrong things, but no matter how things go wrong, one thing is for sure, mistakes help us find the person and things that are right for us. We all make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past. But you are not your mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here NOW with the power to shape your day and your future. Every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.
9. Stop trying to buy happiness. – Many of the things we desire are expensive. But the truth is, the things that really satisfy us are totally free – love, laughter and working on our passions.
10. Stop exclusively looking to others for happiness. – If you’re not happy with who you are on the inside, you won’t be happy in a long-term relationship with anyone else either. You have to create stability in your own life first before you can share it with someone else.

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It is Possible, It is Yours.

"Do not let your fire go out, spark by irreplaceable spark, in the hopeless swamps of the approximate, the not-quite, the not-yet, the not-at-all. Do not let the hero in your soul perish, in the lonely frustration of the life you deserved, but have not been able to reach. Check the road and the nature of your battle.

The world you desired can be won. It exists, it is real, it is possible, it is yours."

-Ayn Rand

Tinge of Tyranny

Noynoy Aquino is nothing but a balding brat who resorts to bullying when he does not get his way. Believe me, I have a long list of insults to hurl at the smirking I-do-not-wonder-why-he-is-still-a-bachelor bachelor because boy, do I hate his guts! In all honesty, last presidential election, had the choices been narrowed to him and Erap I would have voted for the latter. At least Erap doesn't have Kris Aquino as a sister. However, I gave Noynoy the benefit of the doubt that he deserved. I gave him a chance to prove me wrong and let him be the president he claimed to be. But one subtle arrogance at a time he gradually convinced me that he is not just incompetent but he is also unbelievably annoying.

I salute (because who in his proper state of mind won't?) his supposed effort to curtail corruption. However, he is just obsessively running after one - Gloria Arroyo. This is not at all surprising but the fashion on how he is doing so is quite alarming. Every chance he gets, every speech he delivers - he uses it to make snide comments and insinuating remarks. May it be for a graduation speech, an event to commemorate a hero or yes, a National Criminal Justice Summit. In that recent in-your-face attack to the Supreme Court, Noynoy seemed to have forgotten what breeding was. Sure, laud him for speaking his mind but bear in mind where and how it was done. Also, bear in mind who he is flagrantly bashing - the Chief Justice. In doing so, he is not only tainting the Supreme Court as a whole but also the entire judicial system of our country. I do not think that he even considered how it will reflect on the Philippines. Seriously, what the bleep was he thinking?!

Then, what now? Impeachment case against Corona? Really? What is running in his mind this time? Will he eliminate everyone who will go against him, his plans or platform? Why is he attacking a co-equal branch of the government? Is he forgetting separation of powers?

All this is an obvious and sickening case of politicking. It is sad that most Filipinos are blinded by Noynoy's promises. Destitute of vision that they fail to see that he is just another traditional politician. A trapo with no respect to our rules of law. He said "I don’t have a law degree but it’s clear to me what is right and what is wrong, what is humane and what is crooked." I say, might as well get one! He also said that Supreme Court justices should not manipulate justice according to their whims and caprices. Based from your action Noynoy, it appears like you want to manipulate it according to yours. This is a big accusation on my part but this is my blog and I sure can say anything I see fitting. I see subtle dictatorship and tinge of tyranny. If not, then give me the right term on how I can describe the apparent disrespect to the independence of the SC being an equal branch of the government.

This rift between the judiciary and the executive cannot easily be patched without the Constitution being dragged. I am no expert but what I can suggest is for Justice Corona to inhibit when embarking upon an Arroyo case. However, if he will do so, then the Aquino appointees in the Supreme Court should also do so. The accusation of impartiality hurled at Corona also goes for the Noynoy appointees.

For now, somebody please give Noynoy a wig.

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